I have thought it ridiculous how easy it is to conceive in comparison to raising a child. Joy at the birth turns to shock and wonder as you question how you became responsible for the lives of three little beings. You have to ponder sanity when you think cabbage leaves are a perfectly acceptable fashion accessory.
Then somewhere between nappies, tears, foot stamping and throwing the butter, broom and fork (oops, sorry about that) you have three young adults who appear to be pretty cool decent human beings…impressive really.
How could you?
One of the most negative aspects of planning this journey is the question “how can you leave your children??” (funny they can and will leave me any time they want)
So to assist with the kisses goodbye and transition into independent adulthood, at times of inspiration, I might write my own guide to assist in the continuing development of my three.
Below is my first moments of “suggestion”
17 How To Be Rules
1. You are the luckiest person you know. You are blessed with the perfect skills and attributes to be you, so be thankful. In every aspect, appreciate. Be Grateful
2. Life is beautiful so make the most of it. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that “this is it” and you have to live the lot you have been given. There are opportunities and options regardless of where you may find yourself. Seize every day. Be Fearless
3. Your perspective is your reality. How you view the world and what you expect will determine your future. Set goals, have big dreams, see the best and the brightest in all that you do. Be Positive
4, Be Happy. Laugh loud and laugh often. Be with people that make you happy and who uplift and inspire. Don’t take yourself and life too seriously and ask yourself what does it matter. Drop the pride, embrace life, be quick to laugh at yourself and with others. Be Lighthearted
5. What others think of you is none of your business. Trust your inner voice and listen to your heart. You know you better than anyone else, so back yourself before others, every time. Be Confident.
6. Ask and understand why you do things. Rules don’t always exist in the name of the greatest good; more often than not they exist because it suited someone else to maintain control. It’s OK to ask the why question and challenge the standard path. Be Courageous
7. When dealing with others remember you will never know their full story so be slow to judge, be hard to offend and quick to forgive. Try and walk in the shoes of others before you decide. Be Nice
8. Thinking or talking about something is not enough. You have to act. Know what you want then do it. Success takes effort, hard work and commitment. Be Passionate
9. Make time to be with the people that matter. Your relationships are important so they deserve your time, energy and attention. Be There
10. Money – It is not as important as you think it is. Money will come and money will go. Money is a means to an end so work out what you value, what it is you want to achieve and then spend accordingly. Always save, spend less than you earn and manage your money so it doesn’t manage you. Be Prudent
11. In life there will always be those who have more and those who have less than you. Don’t measure your self worth by material possessions or other peoples lives. Measure your life by your relationships. Be Thoughtful
12. You determine your future by your actions, your thoughts and the choices you make. This is your life not mine, not your friends nor your future partners. You choose your future and your reaction to the things that happen in it. Be Deliberate
13. Love and respect are different things. Love comes from living a life based on values. Respect comes from accomplishment and work. Be Persistant
14. You have to like the person you see in the mirror. Make decisions based on your values and treat others as you would wish to be treated regardless of how bad they treat you. If you are tempted to do something wrong and you know it, walk away. Be Honest
15. Life is to be enjoyed and not taken so seriously. When things go wrong, and this will happen, ask yourself does it really matter? If your having a crap day, if uni and work is tough, or you dig holes only to fill them back up again, it doesn’t really matter. Be Big Picture
16. Your family is really important as they are the people that you will laugh loudest with, who will stand with you in times of great joy as well as great sorrow. Your siblings are actually pretty amazing so check in with each other often. Be Family
17. Faith is the glue that binds it all together, it is the foundation to a good life. You may not believe and your doubts may outweigh your faith 10 to 1. Never give up seeking for higher truth and the meaning of it all. Be Still and Seek. Be Faithful